I have used the words “I’ll try,” so many times but I never understood the negative powers behind those words. I thought when someone ask me to do something and I said, “I’ll try” that was a good answer. After all it sure was better than saying no, right?
What I didn’t understand was when I said, “I’ll try,” I was giving myself a free pass to fail. After all there is no commitment in trying so if I didn’t get it done there was nothing wrong with that. I had not failed since I never said I would do it. But to try is to fail, because there is no commitment and without a commitment I will never get it done.
This week I learned how important it was not to try but to do and how vital it is that I never start something or commit to do something if I am not absolutely committed to getting it done.
Charles F. Haanel says it this way in his great book The Master Key System, “Unless you do this, you had better not start at all, because modern psychology tells us that when we start something and do not complete it, or make a resolution and do not keep it, we are forming the habit of failure; absolute, ignominious failure. If you do not intend to do a thing, do not start; if you do start, see it through even if the heavens fall; if you make up your mind to do something, do it; let nothing, no one, interfere; the “I” in you has determined, the thing is settled; the die is cast, there is no longer any argument.”
See here is the key that I was missing, when I was saying “I’ll try”, I was making no commitment to the task, and therefore giving myself permission to fail. I was “forming the habit of failure” I didn’t even know it.
I have learned this week that I should be very careful what I commit to do and once I commit I MUST DO IT. So no more “I’ll try,” my “yes” will be “yes” and my “no” will be “no.” I always keep my promises and I don’t make flippant promises or weak commitments. In the past I had taught myself to accept failure but no more, I will only accept success, and I not try, I will do.